I don’t know if it’s a blessing that I got my period, or now a curse. I can tell I am fighting off the very thing I didn’t want to become consumed by, counting days, checking ovulation, wondering if this is the month we’ll become pregnant.
My husband and I talked about keeping expectations low and I really liked the thought of that… but they keep creeping up and up… will this be the month? Could we actually get pregnant? I even have the thought, “I don’t want to wait another month to try again”.
I laugh at this last thought because I see how normal I am, with other women who are ready for a baby and try for months on end… or years. Month after month, wondering if this is the month. Hopeful with anticipation and then disappointed and sad when the next period comes.
I know, I’m way too far into the future with my thoughts and that is what I need to remind myself of today.
STAY IN THE DAY.
Not only stay in this present moment, but to also look at the things I have to be grateful for in this moment.
The list consists of:
- the opportunity to take naps when I want to
- enjoy a full night’s rest
- be able to go out on a date night without having to find/pay for a babysitter
- go skiing for the full day (together)
- make my schedule around things I would like to do
Although selfish, I can see there is a time and space for this type of lifestyle and once kids come along, all this changes.
I remember having the same thoughts of yearning when I was single, wanting so much to meet my husband. I would write a list of things I was grateful for that I would have in this season… knowing that once I met him, all would change.
Similar with kids. Life as we know it will change and we won’t have this same life again and so it’s important for me to cherish what we have today and embracing each experience we have in this season because once it changes, it changes.
Granted, the change to marriage and the change to having children are wonderful and beautiful with so much richness and growth… and I love how life is always changing. As long as I learn how to enjoy the season of life that I’m in, knowing it will change.
The present. This exact moment, and this exact day is exactly where God wants me to be.
So as we journey through this week, I surrender my desires to God and trust in the plan and timing God has for us to grow our family while practicing gratitude and thanksgiving.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. –Philippians 4:6 NIV