I feel the pressure. Since we found out Maxee is a girl, I think this subject is one that I am trying to avoid.
Naming our baby girl.
We are currently 22 weeks pregnant with our sweet baby girl, Maxee. The nickname has grown on me and I am scared I won’t like choosing her actual name.
The task of choosing her name has been an exciting, playful, and daunting journey and I’m not sure I have grown used to this task.
Growing up, I worked as a lifeguard during the summer. I got to know plenty of children’s names and began a list while I was in college of my top names.
Over the years, I have revisited the list, refining it, adding, deleting.
I thought this process would be much more fun and creative but I forgot that my Hubby would have his own opinions, likes, and dislikes.
I brought my list of over 30 of my FAVORITE girl names to the discussion and Hubby vetoed almost all of them.
To be fair, Hubby has his absolute favorite girl name and it just doesn’t sit well with me for this baby girl growing inside of me.
I vetoed his top choice for this pregnancy. Maybe next one?
He is a simple, practical guy and brought a list of 6 and asked me to do the same.
None of them matched up.
We want to give her a name with meaning and that is not already in our circle of friends and family.
Although we want it to be uncommon, we don’t want it to be too “out there” that would become a problem for her.
The actual name is one big project and then the spelling of it is the next.
Balancing what would be phonetically easy and what makes sense. I always feel bad for people with abstract spelling that they continuously have to correct. I have enough trouble with people spelling my name with 2- “L”s!
- I personally like a little more abstract names and Hubby is more conservative.
- I like more gender-neutral names and Hubby wants one that sounds feminine.
- I would like a name with sentimental value and Hubby doesn’t like any of our genealogical female names.
- Hubby seems to prefer names that are classic yet unique and I am not as drawn.
Most of the names we discuss, I have horrible facial connections to. (It hasn’t helped that I have been in education for over 8 years and met my fair share of teenagers that destroy the hope of names for me.)
This is a big deal and I feel the pressure of naming this child.
This will be the name she carries with her throughout her entire life. It is how people will know her.
I also can’t help but feel the pressure of choosing THE ONE as it might be our ONLY girl, or child, to name.
If I knew we were having more, then I would be able to relax a little more knowing we have another opportunity.
But this is all we have right now, so we can be grateful, and focus on her.
We won’t be sharing the name before she arrives.
It’s special to have something just between us during this time.
Plus, I don’t want the added pressure of hearing people’s opinions on the name we have chosen.
So, our search continues.
- We sit in prayer, asking for a name to become clear.
- We look up the meanings of different names.
- We scroll the credits of every TV program and movie we watch, seeing if there is a name that jumps off the screen.
- We think through our favorite books and decipher any characters that really made an impact.
- We contemplate different meanings and look up names associated.
- We go through meaningful events and travels that have helped build our marriage and scoured our heritage to find names that reflect who we are and where we come from.
Knowing we have 2 names to decide (first and middle), we keep our options open.
I am grateful to know that I want this name to be from the both of us. I have heard people say, the final say comes down to the women since she carried the child for the past 9+ months, but for me, I want to gift Maxee with a name that both Hubby and I want for her.
I want her to know that her name is especially given to her by us.
Thankfully we have 5 months to work this one out!